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My heart and prayers go out to the Rodemeyer family. I can't imagine what they are going through and will continue to experience because of this.
As bad as this is, we need to keep the proper perspective on this.
We have, somehow, expanded the meaning of bullying to include all sorts of bad behavior. When I was a kid, bullying normally meant actual physical violence or threats of violence. But even then, kids were told to figure out how to deal with it on their own, which often meant meeting the bully after school for a fight.
Now, if one child says hurtful things to another child, whether in person or by way of our social media, that's considered bullying also. Ask anyone who was an overweight kid about things that were said to them during their school years. I was one of those fat kids, and it was horrible. I hated school most of the time because of it, and sometimes cried myself silly when I was alone, but I never considered taking my own life.
What needs to be said to our children that I am not hearing, is that suicide, no matter what problems you experience in life, is the wrong solution. I in no way want to disrespect the memory of Jamey Rodemeyer, but the manner in which he is being held up as almost a reverential figure to be respected is wrong. What Jamey did was the ultimate self-centered and selfish act, and that act should not in any way be admired or respected as being acceptable for him because of whatever meanness he was receiving from others or because of the pain or depression he was experiencing due to that meanness. It should be condemned. Jamey, for whatever pain he was experiencing, didn't consider the horror he was leaving for his own family to find. He never bothered to think about his parents and sister who will ache everyday from now on with the pain of his senseless act.
This is what we need to teach our children. And we also need to teach them that there will always be jerks in life who will say hurtful things. You just have to cherish those who do love you and the friends you do have. We must teach them that life is a gift from God and not ours to take away; that no matter how bad things might get, as the old proverb goes, "This too shall pass."